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<h3>Festival Lectures</h3>
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This is ideal wife. She must be prepared to accept any circumstances of the husband. Not that when the husband is rich the wife is very faithful, and when he has come down to be poor or he's going to forest the wife gives up his company. No. Wife means better half. She must abide. Just like, it is said, just like a shadow follows the reality, similarly, the wife is the shadow of the husband. Wherever the husband goes, she must go. Whatever the husband wants, she must carry out.
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[[Vanisource:690327 - Lecture Festival Appearance Day, Lord Ramacandra, Rama-Navami - Hawaii|690327 - Lecture Festival Appearance Day, Lord Ramacandra, Rama-Navami - Hawaii]]
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How one becomes God? God is not manufactured by vote. There are definition who is God. God must be the proprietor of all the riches, aiśvaryasya samāgrasya. Samāgra means all. Nobody can compete with Him. Here, in this world, material world, I am rich man, and there is another rich man who can compete with me. There is another rich man who can compete with him. But nobody can compete with God in richness. That is one qualification of God.

Nobody can say that, "I am richer than God." You can say: "I am richer than Ford" or Rockefeller or this or that. You can say. But nobody can say that, "I am richer than God." Therefore in the Bhagavad-gītā it is said, mattaḥ parataraṁ nānyat asti kiñcid dhanañjaya. Mattaḥ parataraṁ nānyat kiñcid asti dhanañjaya ([[Vanisource:BG 7.7 (1972)|BG 7.7]]).

Dhanañjaya is a name of Arjuna, and Kṛṣṇa said that, "My dear Arjuna, there is nobody greater than Me." So if anyone claims that he is God, he must prove by practical example that nobody is richer than him. That is the first. But unfortunately, we are accepting so many Gods. A rascal in the street, he also claims that, "I am God." So similarly, the other qualification, nobody can be stronger than God, nobody can be wiser than God, nobody can be more beautiful than God, and nobody can be more renouncer than God.

So here Rāmacandra, Lord Rāmacandra exhibited the quality how He renounced the whole kingdom simply on the order of His father, His obedience to father. He could have argued with His father, "My dear father, you, simply for keeping your promise and actuated by the dictation of a woman, you are doing this. Let us stop it. Everyone is expecting that tomorrow My coronation will be there, and they love Me so much."

Because He . . . just like Kṛṣṇa was so much loved, similarly, Lord Rāmacandra was the life of the people. They were very much expecting that Rāmacandra was going to be enthroned tomorrow. So how they were celebrating, how they were decorating the whole city, everything. He never argued. He accepted immediately, "Yes, father. I am ready."

So then His one of the brothers, Lakṣmaṇa, He also requested Rāmacandra, "My dear brother, You also take Me. I am Your constant companion. I must go with You." So He said: "That's Your wish. Voluntarily, if You want to come, You can come with Me." Then Sītā, His wife, young wife, she also said, "I'll go with You."

Rāmacandra requested His wife, "Oh, you cannot go with Me. It is very difficult. You are a king's daughter, and you were brought up in so nice way, and you are so beautiful. You cannot go. You cannot take the trouble of living in the forest." So she said: "Oh, I am Your wife, married wife. So I must go even if You go to hell."

This is ideal wife. She could have refused, "Oh, Your father has ordered to go to forest. You can go. I shall go to my father's house or I shall remain here." No. This is ideal wife. She must be prepared to accept any circumstances of the husband. Not that when the husband is rich the wife is very faithful, and when he has come down to be poor or he's going to forest the wife gives up his company. No. Wife means better half. She must abide. Just like, it is said, just like a shadow follows the reality, similarly, the wife is the shadow of the husband. Wherever the husband goes, she must go. Whatever the husband wants, she must carry out.

Of course, in this country this interpretation is taken differently, that wife is made a slave. But actually it is not so. When Sītā was kidnapped in the jungle, Rāmacandra expected that, that she was beautiful, she was young and, "We shall be in open jungle. It may be some demons may come," and actually it so happened. So for Sītā, Lord Rāmacandra massacred the whole family of Rāvaṇa. Only for Sītā. So as the husband, so the wife. The wife was so faithful that she could not remain alone. She must accompany the husband even in the forest. And the husband was so faithful that, "Oh, my wife has been kidnapped," so He massacred the whole family of Rāvaṇa.

So these are ideal history how . . . Rāmacandra, Lord Rāmacandra appeared on this world to educate, or to place ideal example of a king, how the king should be. Therefore when there is good government . . . the example is given, Rāma-rājya. Rāma-rājya. It is the kingdom of Lord Rāma. Because everyone was happy. Everyone. There are so many instances in the life of Rāmacandra.

One brahmin . . . not brahmin exactly; somebody came to Rāmacandra. Because at that time there was no court like this, that you have to go to a court and apply with stamp fee, then your judgment will be delivered after six years. It is not like that. Anyone who has got some complaint, he should . . . the king used to sit in the open audience, and the citizens were allowed to approach the king and place their complaints. Because there was no complaint practically. Everyone was happy. Very minor complaint.
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