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<h3>Srimad-Bhagavatam Lectures</h3>
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Without being married, according to Vedic culture, no man or woman can mix very intimately. That is even in the ordinary dealings. Mātṛvat para-dāreṣu. Cāṇakya Paṇḍita said that, "Except your wife, all women are your mother." This is paṇḍita.
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[[Vanisource:741009 - Lecture SB 01.08.29 - Mayapur|741009 - Lecture SB 01.08.29 - Mayapur]]
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Those who are mūḍhas, they cannot understand Kṛṣṇa. Kṛṣṇa is playing, although like that, ordinary human being, the mūḍhas cannot understand. Just like Kṛṣṇa killed Pūtanā, but she got elevation to the position of His mother. Superficially it appeared that Kṛṣṇa killed the Pūtanā, but Pūtanā, Kṛṣṇa took her as her (His) mother. Although she came to kill Kṛṣṇa with poison on her breast, but Kṛṣṇa thought that, "This woman has come to kill Me, but because I have sucked her breast, she is My mother." So any way, the service side, Kṛṣṇa always accepts, a little service. Therefore in the Bhagavad-gītā it is said, svalpam apy asya dharmasya trāyate mahato bhayāt. Svalpam asya. A little service to Kṛṣṇa is feasible, is helpful, to save a man from the greatest danger.

So further she explains, na yasya kaścid dayitaḥ. Dayita means favorable. Na yasya kaścid dayitaḥ asti karhicid dveṣyaś ca yasmin. And nobody is envious. The Bhagavad-gītā also confirms, samo 'haṁ sarva bhūteṣu na me dveṣyo 'sti kiñcana ([[Vanisource:BG 9.29 (1972)|BG 9.29]]). Kṛṣṇa is, as we discussed the other day . . . just like the sun is equal to everyone, but we are not able to take the sunshine equally. Somewhere the sun is covered with cloud. Someone is sitting within the dark room. In this way, we are unable to take the sunshine equally. But sun is distributing equally. Na hi harati jyotsnā candraś caṇḍāla-veśmani. There is the . . . Cāṇakya Paṇḍita says, caṇḍāla-veśmani. Caṇḍāla means untouchable, the dog-eaters. In the Vedic conception, the dog-eaters are untouchable. Actually they should be untouchable. Meat-eaters are untouchable, especially . . . there are different kinds of meat-eaters. Some eat the goats, some mutton, some cows, some hogs and some dogs. Just like the Hindus, they eat goats, but they do not eat cows. Some religious conception. And the Muhammadans, they use . . . eat cows, but they do not eat pigs. Hārāma. The Muhammadans say: "To eat pig is hārāma." So everyone has got some distinction. But the caṇḍālas, they eat everything, up to the dogs. We have seen in Korea, and in China also, they eat dogs. Here in India, Assam side, there are dog-eaters. So there are different kinds of flesh-eaters. And you'll find in Āyurvedic dravya-guṇa, there are so many different types of meats and fleshes described, and the eating such flesh, what benefit or harm is there, that is described. So formerly, how they were analyzed.

So Kṛṣṇa, although He's playing the part of human being, His activities are transcendental. Na māṁ karmāṇi limpanti na me karma-phale spṛhā ([[Vanisource:BG 4.14 (1972)|BG 4.14]]). That is the distinction between Kṛṣṇa and ourself. He is killing. He has killed so many demons; from the very childhood His one side is killing—Pūtanā killing, Aghāsura, Bakāsura, this asura, that asura, then Keśī, and so many asuras He killed. But His killing and our killing is not the same. Na māṁ karmāṇi limpanti. And in the Īśopaniṣad is . . . apāpa-viddham. That is Kṛṣṇa. If we imitate Kṛṣṇa . . . we cannot imitate. Therefore our business is to follow the words of Kṛṣṇa, not to imitate Him. That is suicidal. We shall follow the instruction of Kṛṣṇa as He is giving in the Bhagavad-gītā. But if we become so rascal to imitate His rāsa-līlā, then we'll go to hell. But the Māyāvādīs, they sometimes do that. That . . . in the Bhāgavatam it is forbidden that, "Imitation of this . . ." Idaṁ ca viṣṇoḥ. What is that verse, vraja . . . no, that . . .? That, "These pastimes of Lord Kṛṣṇa, who is Viṣṇu, with the gopīs, they should not be . . . not only they should be imitated, they should not be thought even within the mind that, 'We can also do like that.' " It is forbidden.

Then the question was . . . Parīkṣit Mahārāja questioned this, "Kṛṣṇa, He came to establish religious principles." Yadā yadā hi dharmasya glānir bhavati bhārata tadātmānaṁ sṛjāmy aham ([[Vanisource:BG 4.7 (1972)|BG 4.7]]). Paritrāṇāya sādhū . . . vināśāya ca duṣkṛtām, dharma-saṁsthāpanārthāya ([[Vanisource:BG 4.8 (1972)|BG 4.8]]). "So why Kṛṣṇa did this act?" Because it is forbidden to mix with others' wife or daughter. Without being married, according to Vedic culture, no man or woman can mix very intimately. That is even in the ordinary dealings. Mātṛvat para-dāreṣu. Cāṇakya Paṇḍita said that, "Except your wife, all women are your mother." This is paṇḍita.
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