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[[Category:Questions asked to Srila Prabhupada]]
[[Category:Questions asked to SP... 1976]]
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<div id="1976_Conversations_and_Morning_Walks" class="sub_section" sec_index="9" parent="Conversations_and_Morning_Walks" text="1976 Conversations and Morning Walks"><h3>1976 Conversations and Morning Walks</h3>
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<div class="heading">Nobody says. (laughter) But the ceremony is made. The social system in India is that "If I do not accept your food, then I do not take you within my inner circle. You remain outside."
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<span class="link">[[Vanisource:Room Conversation -- July 10, 1976, New York|Room Conversation -- July 10, 1976, New York]]: </span><div class="text"><p style="display: inline;">Prabhupāda: What is that?</p>
<p>Ṛṣi-kumāra: It's called rajkacuri. (laughter)</p>
<p>Bali-mardana: Stuffed with dāl, potato, tamarind sauce and sour cream.</p>
<p>Devotee (1): Ṛṣi's making up for lost time.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Where you learned this?</p>
<p>Ṛṣi-kumāra: In Kailash Saksarya's.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Huh?</p>
<p>Ṛṣi-kumāra: From Kailash Saksarya's cook. At least I learned something there.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: From that cook, Kailash's cook?</p>
<p>Ṛṣi-kumāra: Yes.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: He was very expert. In India, a girl, if she could cook nicely, then she is perfect. There is a ceremony, it is called bahubhat(?). After marriage the girl comes to her father-in-law's house and there is a ceremony called bahubhat. In that bahubhat, the girl is to cook and distribute this food to all the relatives of her husband. If they say it is excellent, then she is accepted in this family.</p>
<p>Bali-mardana: What if they say it is not excellent?</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Nobody says. (laughter) But the ceremony is made. The social system in India is that "If I do not accept your food, then I do not take you within my inner circle. You remain outside."</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: It's a great offense if you offer someone prasādam and they refuse.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Yes. That means I am not accepting you as intimate. And if he accepts, then you cannot deny his friendship. About one hundreds years ago in Bengal in the aristocratic circle, the guests invited and very sumptuously food distributed, and then the gentlemen, guests, they come and see only, they will simply say "Oh, it is very nicely done." They'll not eat, and go away. Then the foodstuff will be distributed among the servants. This was aristocracy. They'll not eat, they will simply see and appreciate, "Oh, you have so many varieties, very nice." Then they'll go. And the household servants and others, they eat it.</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Why didn't they eat it?</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: That was the custom.</p>
<p>Bali-mardana: That is a dry philosophy. (laughs)</p>
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